What if YOUR birthing experience could be one of the funnest, most empowering moments of your life?
by Amanda + Ian Harrison
Across the globe, more and more women are experiencing the kind of birth that makes them stronger,
deeply bonded with their baby,
and with a quick and easy recovery.
There is a movement towards increasing the odds of having a pleasurable birthing experience by making more conscious choices in birthing, getting back to the basics but with better technology.
If you're pregnant, you might be terrified of what lies ahead, nervous that you won't be able to handle it, and confused by all the contradicting information piling up.
Or maybe, like me, you've already been through one birth that didn't go as well as you'd hoped it would, and this time around you're determined to have a more natural, more pleasurable experience.
Well-meaning family and friends offer unsolicited advice and expect you to follow it, but you know there has to be a better way…
So you set out to find your own path.
On the one hand, there's an overload of fear-based hypochondria that encourages you to watch for every tiny symptom of possible complications, run to a "medical professional" for guidance, and use drugs or medical procedures to get through what they claim will be unbearable.
This advice leaves you feeling even more worried and certainly less empowered.
On the other hand, the search for alternatives to this mainstream mayhem can often turn up a lot of beautiful ideas about the sacredness of pregnancy and the importance of birthing naturally, but no real, concrete steps you can take or tools you can use in your everyday life to help make that happen.
All this confusion and worry isn't just affecting YOU.
Your baby is soaking in the stress hormones your body releases as a result of all this turmoil.
Your partner, family, and friends may sense your insecurity and lack of confidence and take it as a sign they need to step in and take control.
As if that's not enough, you may be feeling that you're alone in your search for a better way. You may feel trapped in a lonely no man's land between the camps of Western medicine and woo-woo mysticism.
You may be slowly losing hope that you'll find someone who understands what you're going through and has felt what you’re feeling.
Friends who want what you want and will support and encourage your decision to birth naturally.
Guides who have walked the path before you, hacked through that jungle of confusion, and found the stuff that really makes a difference.
But what if you did find someone and could benefit from their experience?
Imagine the confidence and clarity that would come with having access to someone who has been down that road (several times!), someone who has proven by experience that a better way is possible.
Wouldn’t it be great if that person could just share with you the exact steps she took to have a fun, easy, and pain-free labor (twice!), saving you the trouble of having to sift through all the available information yourself?
And what if she could keep you focused on just the things that will actually help you have the best birthing experience possible?
Imagine what that would feel like, to be inspired and supported, comforted and challenged.
Imagine being able to ask any question and find a place of safety, where you won't be judged or ridiculed, where you and your vision for a better birth will be taken seriously. A place where no conversation is “off limits.”
And just imagine what having the empowering, beautiful birthing experience you desire would do for the other aspects of your life--your relationships, your work, your health.
What would it be like to know, really know from an embodied place, just how powerful you truly are?
To be the authority of your own life. To stand up for yourself, to speak your truth and get your deepest needs met.
Just think how important it is for your future child to have that kind of a parent---a mom who knows who she is, how powerful she is, and can model that for her child.
And think of the implications for your relationship with your partner---to have been seen in all your power, bravely pulling off one of the most wildly intense and primitive events of your entire life. To have gained an entirely new level of mutual respect.
You don't want to be scared, confused, or alone in this anymore.
And you don’t have to be.
At LoveBirthing We Believe:
It’s time to shake off the voices of fear.
Women deserve to know the truth (and have FUN learning it!).
There are new and better ways to give birth to our children.
Birthing was meant to be pleasurable.
We can trust the wisdom of our own bodies.
We’ve put together all the best of everything we’ve learned, the absolute minimum effective dose of what you need to do in order to have the best birth possible.
I'd love to share with you a tiny taste of the solutions and game changers that have helped many women have easier births. These videos are fun and light. One is an animated description of simple, doable tips for an easy labor. The other is an excerpt from my stand up comedy debut, in which I discuss my three births (so far). (For an edited, PG-version of the stand up, with 99% of the "grown up" material removed, click here.) ;)
I know, I know, as "simple" as I've tried to make it all sound, it can still seem like a lot. You might be wondering how you’re going to survive the brutal process of having to figure out all this complicated birthing stuff.
I know exactly how you feel… that’s why I care so much about this.
Not that long ago, I was right where you are--pregnant, terrified, desperate and confused.
I read every book I could get my hands on, took classes, listened to guided meditations, and checked out DVD's from the library.
I so wanted to have an ultra natural birth, the best possible transition into the outside world for the precious life growing inside me. I wanted everything to be perfect.
But when it came time to actually give birth, it was easier to "go along to get along," to just obey my midwife and trust that she knew best.
Even when what she advised me to do went against what I'd learned, I figured she knew better than me. She was the expert; I was just the first-time mama who knew nothing.
What I didn't realize was that the entire paradigm I approached birth with---the paradigm of Pain Management + Trusting the Authorities Instead of Your Body---was a huge part of the problem.
That first birth, with all of its unnecessary pain, stress, and traumatic recovery, was a huge turning point for me. It showed me just how dangerous it can be to let anyone else be the authority of my life, of my body.
With my next pregnancy, my adventure truly began. The journey toward becoming my own person, toward owning my own authority, toward true freedom.
This time around, I knew I wanted things to be dramatically different. I wanted to birth without fear. I wanted to experience the "childbirth as sheer pleasure" I'd only read about until then.
Most people, especially my own family, thought I was crazy.
Many thought I was foolish and that I'd "learn the hard way" that an easy, pain-free labor and birth was just a fantasy. They tried to talk me into changing my mind. Very few respected my vision and admired my courage.
But I created my own path anyway. I searched high and low and found new alternatives to the traditional pregnancy advice. I found new tools and ideas.
I saturated my mind with stories and images of the kind of birth I wanted.
I even took a road trip to Northern California to meet one of my birthing heroes in person and attend her 2-day workshop. I needed to ask her if, after meeting me, she thought I had what it took to pull off a peaceful, painless labor.
And then came the actual birth. Up until the very day I went into labor, I was terrified. I would lie awake at night worrying, get out of bed to do more research, and journal for hours on the subject.
But when the time came, all my hard work paid off. We experienced one of the easiest, fastest, and funnest births I'd ever heard of.
I felt empowered and invincible, like there was nothing I couldn't do. It was the rite of passage experience I'd never had. My initiation into what felt like a sacred realm of truth, freedom and power.
And I was hooked…
I wanted EVERY woman on the planet to know what birthing could be like.
I didn't want even one more woman to experience unnecessary pain or stress or to miss out on the fulfilling experience of birthing her OWN way, whether or not anyone else would ever want to birth exactly as I had.
It's so difficult to hear about or watch (even in movies) women experiencing unnecessary pain and discomfort in labor. It makes me so sad and frustrated.
But now I realize that---because I walked that lonely path and hacked that trail through the jungle of confusion and misinformation---I can lead other women to the Promised Land that I discovered.
I'm here to share this discovery with women who want what I wanted. Women who want to love birthing.
You may be feeling terrified and confused, worn out by the search for a better way to birth, or just plain tired of feeling like you have to do this alone.
And you don't want to be scared, confused, or doing this by yourself anymore.
I've been there, and I did the hard work of carving out a brand new way so that you don't have to.
And now, my husband and I offer birthing consultation for women and couples to make it that much easier for you.
If you want to have the most fulfilling birth experience possible having your baby the fun + easy way, schedule a free collaboration session with us at the bottom of this page.
The 20-minute Virtual Coffee Date is a super-informal chat with just Amanda, and the 30-minute Free Consultation includes Ian as well (he's the communications specialist who can help you prep for The Conversation with your partner or other loved ones).
Talk to you soon,
Amanda + Ian Harrison :)
P.S. In case you’re one of the people (like us) who sometimes skim to the bottom before you read the page, here’s what this is about:
1. We’ve discovered how to have a baby the fun + easy way.
2. We know you’re probably terrified and confused--we were too!
3. We’re offering a free* collaboration session that will address your specific concerns, help you get on the same page as a couple, and create a plan for how to prepare for the birth you really want. (If you want to skip the whole story above and get straight to filling out the scheduling your session, you can choose from the options at the bottom of the page.)
* We offer this free service because a) we love meeting people--especially people we know we can help, and b) we’re pregnancy & birthing mindset coaches---there’s a good possibility you might be just the type of person who could benefit from our experience. So if you find value in the help we give you, you might want to continue working with us towards the goal of having your baby the fun + easy way.
With that said, please understand that we’re not offering a sales pitch in disguise. We promise not to pressure you or pester you in any way at all. That really grosses us out.
But before you go any further, you need to know that we can’t help everybody. We can only be of benefit to people who are open, receptive, and willing to do whatever it takes to have the best birth experience possible.
And even if there's 0% chance that you'd ever want to continue working with us beyond the free collaboration session, that one call will still be a win-win for all of us---you'll get free guidance and encouragement, and we'll get to connect with you and offer some of what we've learned. That's immensely rewarding to us.
So here’s what you do next. If you want to schedule a session with us, simply choose which one below. The 20-minute Virtual Coffee Date is a super-informal chat with just Amanda, and the 30-minute Free Consultation includes Ian as well (he's the communications specialist who can help you prep for The Conversation with your partner or other loved ones).
We look forward to chatting with you! :)
LoveBirthing does not give medical advice. If you have any concerns with your pregnancy and/or birth, please contact your care provider. We love talking about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood. We support you in having a birth experience that you'll LOVE. Please always talk to your care provider when making any decisions about your pregnancy and birth. And always choose your care provider wisely.